The Disconnect Between What You Want & Have

This topic is one that I ADORE talking about! I am not a motivated person (or at least that's not the entire story!) a lot of my motivation comes between the friction between what I want, and what I have!

This podcast discusses this!

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How do you decide what to listen to and take action on?

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For a long time.

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I just followed what I thought, which sounds super easy.

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But for me it never was because I think about a lot of different things.

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I've got a hundred.

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Million ideas that I want to take action on.

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And so deciding where to start feels really overwhelming.

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Thankfully.

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I figured out something that works for me.

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I just consider what I want and go after it.

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I bring it to life.

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Or at least that's part of the story.

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The above probably sounds rather familiar to those who've heard the

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manifesting conversation go after what you want and it'll appear and

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everything will be great and amazing.

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However, in my own experience and the experience of my clients.

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There's often a piece missing.

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If you just go after what you want, you're running blind.

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Because what you want rarely matches what you have, AKA the reality of

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your situation, what's actually going on for you, what you have at your

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disposal and also what you don't have, because that's the reality.

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I want nothing more but to spend each and every day talking to amazing

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people, helping them with all the things that are stopping them to

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achieve what they want in their business bringing simplicity to them.

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However, the reality of my situation is talking to a lot of people

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every day drains me and I ended up tired the very next day meaning

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for me it's kind of unsustainable.

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What you want is one thing.

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But what you have available to you is also an incredible part

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of it and they work together.

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I can't just drop everything and go traveling to speak on stage...

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although I did go to Portland this year and somehow I ended up doing just that.

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But I have a family which, oh my God, I would miss them terribly.

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And it was hard for them as it was for me.

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I say this not as a victim of my circumstance, but as the reality

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of the environment I'm in.

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Now I am completely a hundred percent able to influence my environment,

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but what you want and what you have are often in direct conflict with

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each other, there is a disconnect.

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But the thing I love about the friction between want and have is

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that it drives me to do something.

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It drives me to take action.

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I am often perceived as being motivated, driven even, but that doesn't come because

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of habits or routines or a task list whether that be my notion or my obsidian.

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It comes from me knowing what I want and what I have, and the

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innate friction between the two.

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It keeps me moving, it motivates me to continue doing things even when,

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sometimes I'm not really in the mood.

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For example, this podcast I'm motivated to continue it because

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I want new clients, test out new formats and work with new people!

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By being aware of what I really want it allows me to add constraints.

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As my brain has so many ideas by having these constraints, it allows

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me to move forward in a direction that fits what I'm looking to do.

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Now the thing that I absolutely love about this process is

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this completely non-linear.

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It's not about do one then two, then three or maybe even three than two than one,

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or maybe 2, 1, 3, or maybe I could just do three through 3, 1, 1, 1, 2, 2, 2.

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It's basically based on what I want to do in the moment and what I have in front of

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me, it allows me to work in that moment.

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Yes.

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My dopamine loving friends.

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We can use the dopamine, follow what we want and have it and

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match it with what we have.

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We don't have to try to avoid it or make us better at staying focused.

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It's about figuring out what we want and what we have, and that

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friction creates what we do!

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We all bombarded by hundreds of things each day.

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So trying to force our brains to focus on the surface, kind of makes sense.

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But sometimes chasing after just our wants are forcing us to focus in one direction.

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Causes more trouble than it's worth instead of just starting from one

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thing, start from the full reality of you and the reality that you are in.

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Don't want to go it alone reach out to me@simplicity-specialist.com

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