This topic is one that I ADORE talking about! I am not a motivated person (or at least that's not the entire story!) a lot of my motivation comes between the friction between what I want, and what I have!
This podcast discusses this!
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How do you decide what to listen to and take action on?
Jonathan Stewart:For a long time.
Jonathan Stewart:I just followed what I thought, which sounds super easy.
Jonathan Stewart:But for me it never was because I think about a lot of different things.
Jonathan Stewart:I've got a hundred.
Jonathan Stewart:Million ideas that I want to take action on.
Jonathan Stewart:And so deciding where to start feels really overwhelming.
Jonathan Stewart:Thankfully.
Jonathan Stewart:I figured out something that works for me.
Jonathan Stewart:I just consider what I want and go after it.
Jonathan Stewart:I bring it to life.
Jonathan Stewart:Or at least that's part of the story.
Jonathan Stewart:The above probably sounds rather familiar to those who've heard the
Jonathan Stewart:manifesting conversation go after what you want and it'll appear and
Jonathan Stewart:everything will be great and amazing.
Jonathan Stewart:However, in my own experience and the experience of my clients.
Jonathan Stewart:There's often a piece missing.
Jonathan Stewart:If you just go after what you want, you're running blind.
Jonathan Stewart:Because what you want rarely matches what you have, AKA the reality of
Jonathan Stewart:your situation, what's actually going on for you, what you have at your
Jonathan Stewart:disposal and also what you don't have, because that's the reality.
Jonathan Stewart:I want nothing more but to spend each and every day talking to amazing
Jonathan Stewart:people, helping them with all the things that are stopping them to
Jonathan Stewart:achieve what they want in their business bringing simplicity to them.
Jonathan Stewart:However, the reality of my situation is talking to a lot of people
Jonathan Stewart:every day drains me and I ended up tired the very next day meaning
Jonathan Stewart:for me it's kind of unsustainable.
Jonathan Stewart:What you want is one thing.
Jonathan Stewart:But what you have available to you is also an incredible part
Jonathan Stewart:of it and they work together.
Jonathan Stewart:I can't just drop everything and go traveling to speak on stage...
Jonathan Stewart:although I did go to Portland this year and somehow I ended up doing just that.
Jonathan Stewart:But I have a family which, oh my God, I would miss them terribly.
Jonathan Stewart:And it was hard for them as it was for me.
Jonathan Stewart:I say this not as a victim of my circumstance, but as the reality
Jonathan Stewart:of the environment I'm in.
Jonathan Stewart:Now I am completely a hundred percent able to influence my environment,
Jonathan Stewart:but what you want and what you have are often in direct conflict with
Jonathan Stewart:each other, there is a disconnect.
Jonathan Stewart:But the thing I love about the friction between want and have is
Jonathan Stewart:that it drives me to do something.
Jonathan Stewart:It drives me to take action.
Jonathan Stewart:I am often perceived as being motivated, driven even, but that doesn't come because
Jonathan Stewart:of habits or routines or a task list whether that be my notion or my obsidian.
Jonathan Stewart:It comes from me knowing what I want and what I have, and the
Jonathan Stewart:innate friction between the two.
Jonathan Stewart:It keeps me moving, it motivates me to continue doing things even when,
Jonathan Stewart:sometimes I'm not really in the mood.
Jonathan Stewart:For example, this podcast I'm motivated to continue it because
Jonathan Stewart:I want new clients, test out new formats and work with new people!
Jonathan Stewart:By being aware of what I really want it allows me to add constraints.
Jonathan Stewart:As my brain has so many ideas by having these constraints, it allows
Jonathan Stewart:me to move forward in a direction that fits what I'm looking to do.
Jonathan Stewart:Now the thing that I absolutely love about this process is
Jonathan Stewart:this completely non-linear.
Jonathan Stewart:It's not about do one then two, then three or maybe even three than two than one,
Jonathan Stewart:or maybe 2, 1, 3, or maybe I could just do three through 3, 1, 1, 1, 2, 2, 2.
Jonathan Stewart:It's basically based on what I want to do in the moment and what I have in front of
Jonathan Stewart:me, it allows me to work in that moment.
Jonathan Stewart:Yes.
Jonathan Stewart:My dopamine loving friends.
Jonathan Stewart:We can use the dopamine, follow what we want and have it and
Jonathan Stewart:match it with what we have.
Jonathan Stewart:We don't have to try to avoid it or make us better at staying focused.
Jonathan Stewart:It's about figuring out what we want and what we have, and that
Jonathan Stewart:friction creates what we do!
Jonathan Stewart:We all bombarded by hundreds of things each day.
Jonathan Stewart:So trying to force our brains to focus on the surface, kind of makes sense.
Jonathan Stewart:But sometimes chasing after just our wants are forcing us to focus in one direction.
Jonathan Stewart:Causes more trouble than it's worth instead of just starting from one
Jonathan Stewart:thing, start from the full reality of you and the reality that you are in.
Jonathan Stewart:Don't want to go it alone reach out to me@simplicity-specialist.com